One of my Christmas Presents to myself this year was a book that I’ve been wanting for a while; Grace’s Guide: The Art of Pretending To Be A Grown-Up. I’m really inspired by successful young ladies in my age range and I figured getting a few tips from someone who has been where I am would be great. Grace’s Guide is a self-help book that gives guidance into how to survive your twenties when you have no idea what to do with your life, from getting a job and dealing with school to getting throw a breakup. And the way my life is right now I can use all the help I can get.
I’m in my second year of college, I have an overall plan of where I want my life to go. But for right now I’m stuck. I don’t know what to do or where to go; I have maybe three friends that I never see or hangout with. I don’t have a job which I really want and NEED; I just needed some insight on what I could do to change it. I want to travel and have fun, I want to feel like I’m doing something with a purpose and I don’t. Which I’m sure tons of 20 year old college students feel the same way, so it’s nothing new. But what does one do when they’re in a rut?
I was most interested in the Your Social Life section of the book, probably because that is what I need the most help with. It talked about how to make adult friends, hanging out by yourself (which I’ve nearly mastered) and how to throw an adult party. Grace talks about how to make friends you have to make an effort, you have to go out and actually talk to people; two things I’m not all that enthusiastic about. Which is why that is my goal for this year, making friends. And not just any friends, I need friends that are on the same track as me. People who are open minded and cultured. I need to surround myself around positive, uplifting individuals and I think that is a reason I don’t have many friends now; I haven’t found that yet. I don’t have a need to throw an adult party just yet but when I have friends and do it’s going to be a kickass party. The book is filled with great tips and suggestions that I intend on applying to my life.
It is a fun interactive self-help book that I encourage all young adults, struggle college students or pretty much anyone needing a little laugh and help. Throughout the book there are little work sheets, quizzes and cutouts. This isn’t a book you follow whole heartedly, you adapted each situation to your life and modify it to your liking. The first section I’m going to work with is the social life, I have to find the right balance of being with other humans and being alone. I think with Grace’s guidance/tips I’ll be able to get the most out of my twenties. I know she isn’t an expert but her story is similar to what’s happening to me now and I feel like she gets me.
Wish me luck finding friends.